Do people piss you off? Are there some people that really give you the shits?
Well, guess what?
You are the problem!
This could be one of the hardest things to get your head around but believe me if you can (we can help) you’re life will never be the same again. JO x
You are the creator of your life. This means everything is up to you. When you move from victim to creator, you take back your power! No one has control over you anymore.
Look for a moment at someone in your life who bothers you. Describe three things about this person that you don’t like, things that you want him or her to change. Now, look deep inside of you and ask yourself, “Where am I like that, and when do I do the same things?”
Close your eyes and give yourself the time to do this. Then ask yourself if YOU ARE WILLING TO CHANGE?
When you remove these patterns, habits, and beliefs from your thinking and behavior, either the other person will change or he or she will leave your life. If you have a boss who is critical and impossible to please, look within. Either you do that on some level or you have a belief that “bosses are always critical and impossible to please.” If you have an employee who won’t obey or doesn’t follow through, look to see where you do that and clean it up. Firing someone is too easy; it doesn’t clear your pattern. If there is a co-worker who won’t cooperate and be part of the team, look to see how you could have attracted this. Where are you non-cooperative?
If you have a friend who is undependable and lets you down, turn within. Where in your life are you not dependable, and when do you let others down? Is that your belief? If you have a lover who is cold and seems unloving, look to see if there is a belief within you that came from watching your parents in your childhood that says, “Love is cold and undemonstrative.” If you have a spouse who is nagging and non-supportive, again look to your childhood beliefs. Did you have a parent who was nagging and non-supportive? Are you that way? If you have a child who has habits that irritate you, I will guarantee that they are your habits. Children learn only by imitating the adults around them.
Clear it within you, and you’ll find that they change automatically. This is the only way to change others — change ourselves first. Change your patterns, and you will find that “they” are different, too. Blame is useless. Blaming only gives away our power. Keep your power. Without power, we cannot make changes. The helpless victim cannot see a way out.
“If you think of the hardest thing for you to do and how much you resist it, then you’re looking at your greatest lesson at the moment.”
This is what we do at Jill Ogle Coaching, we help you change these patterns, beliefs, behaviors so you can lead a happier and more fulfilling life.
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